I had chosen a different topic for the letter F in the Everyday, BETTER! series (Fixer Upper! You’ll have to watch future posts to see how I fit it back in, ’cause Chip and Jo are all the IT, you know! 😉 ). This last week, however, one thought keeps worming its way into my mind. I miss my friends. There, I said it. Those friends whom I saw all the time: the parents of my daughter’s school friends and sports friends, with whom I spent hours upon hours every week; the people I saw at church two or three times a week; my co-workers from various jobs and volunteer opportunities. Somehow I assumed all of those relationships would just continue as they were even as I transitioned into a new season of life.
It happens to us all: we make friends because of the circles we travel and season of life we are living. You become close, but you don’t really consider the fact that except for the place and circumstances that bring you together every week, your paths would never cross. Then your circumstances change. You no longer have to shuttle children to events, you move to a different church or to a different neighborhood, you change jobs. I have wonderful friends, but during the past 24 months, I’ve realized that I naturally bump into only a small handful of them in the course of the everyday. Social media has disguised that a little. We keep up with each other on Facebook and Instagram, see the good stuff and occasionally the bad stuff, but then suddenly realize just how long it’s been since we’ve seen that sweet face in person.'The only way to have a friend is to be one.' #friendship #beintentional Click To Tweet
The changing seasons of our life are a wonderful thing! Each time and place brings unique opportunities; some people start a new job, learn a new skill, volunteer, travel, start a blog 😉 , pursue a long-held passion — you name it! The quote below about Mrs. Miniver sums this up perfectly (I always loved Mrs. Miniver!*) However, these new seasons also present unique challenges for maintaining those important relationships forged in earlier times. (*affiliate link)
Mrs. Miniver suddenly understood why she was enjoying the forties so much better than she had enjoyed the thirties: it was the difference between August and October, between the heaviness of late summer and the sparkle of early autumn, between the ending of an old phase and the beginning of a fresh one.”
― Jan Struther,
I could drone on and on about how important it is to nurture those relationships, but I wouldn’t be telling you anything you don’t already know. At some point, the talking has to stop and the doing has to start. So, if you will excuse me, I’m going to sign off here and go call a friend. Before you do the same, find your favorite friendship quote below and download the images, then send it to that friend you are particularly missing!
What are the best ways you’ve found to maintain constant friendships though your own changing seasons?
Friendship Quotes You Will Want To Share
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'” ― C.S. Lewis
“Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm & constant.” – Socrates
“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.
“Pooh!” he whispered.
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” — A.A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner
“Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.” – Aristotle
“There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate.” ― Linda Grayson
“I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh.
“There there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do.” — A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“Dear George: Remember no man is a failure who has friends.” — Clarence, It’s a Wonderful Life
“The friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is made of dearer stuff than the one who stays away.” – Barbara Kingsolver
“You can always tell a real friend: when you’ve made a fool of yourself he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job.” – Laurence J. Peter
“A day spent with you is my favorite day. So today is my new favorite day.” — A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” – Dale Carnegie
“The only way to have a friend is to be one.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.” — A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“Yes’m, old friends is always best, ‘less you can catch a new one that’s fit to make an old one out of.” — Sarah Orne Jewett
“Remember that the most valuable antiques are dear old friends.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” –A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.” – Jon Katz