You know the stereotype: mothers and daughters in constant tension, eyes blazing as wills clash over every. little. thing. A few raised voices, perhaps a few stomped feet and even slammed doors. Later there is a peck on the cheek that, with luck, may be accompanied by a one-armed hug. When my own daughter was just a baby, she would often fight me at bedtime, but would fall asleep almost immediately for her dad. He brushed this off as “that mother/daughter” thing. What?? She was a baby!
There will always be a little tension — and occasionally, more than just a little! — between every parent and every child. Those emotional roller coaster pre-teen and “I Am My Own Person” teenage years are for real, folks! Despite the crazy and often unpredictable ups and downs, should we really expect a daughter to grow away from her mother as she grows toward that exciting thing called adulthood? With kids’ schedules, work schedules, home and family responsibilities, and the list just goes on…time is always in short supply. However, a stolen few hours here and there, and maybe even a whole day or two every once in a while, can reap benefits far beyond the teen years and well into the rest of both of your lives. These simple ideas can yield a huge return on your time investment over the years! There are many more ideas in my free e-booklet, Made to Last…45 Ways To Nuture the Mother – Daughter Relationship. Click on this image to get your free copy!
A Sneak Peek at 15 of the 45 Ways To Nurture the Mother / Daughter Relationship
1. Give her a tour of your old “stomping grounds,” where your grandfather took you for ice cream after school, where you went to college, where you lived when you were dating her dad. Make sure you tell her plenty of stories about these places!
2. Ask for her help. There is always something she knows how to do that you don’t, such as how to use something on your phone, or if those jeans are “skinny” enough without being too skinny.
3. Mail her a card, whether she lives at home or away. In our instant communication world, snail mail still wins the “Means So Much” award!
4. Listen to audiobooks together. Sharing a book creates a shared memory, and you can never have enough of those. Besides, it gives you something (and someone! 🙂 ) else to talk about!
5. Take a road trip, even if it’s just for the day.
6. Get to know her friends. Taking an interest in her friends means you are taking an interest in her, and she notices.
6. Make sure she knows how to cook all the traditional family recipes. If she hates to cook, at least write them down so her husband can make them. 🙂
7. Make time for conversation. You may not think you are talking about anything important, but with time, those halting, inconsequential conversations will get deeper and more revealing.
8. Listen when she talks. A lot. Don’t try to fix her problems.
9. Attend as many of her “events” as you can, be it sports, performances, academic, awards, etc. You can’t always be there and that is okay, but always be there when you can.
10. Cook her favorite dinner “just because.” And let her know you did it especially for her just because she is who she is.
11. Meet for lunch or coffee if she has a break in her school or work day.
12. Go out for girls’ night with your friends and include her.
13. Choose a particular Bible verse for her that gives encouragement for a specific challenge she is facing. Tell her why you chose it, pray it over her, make reference to it frequently.
14. Laugh. A LOT!
15. Let her see you hugging, kissing, and enjoying her father. She will know that it’s okay for her to grow up because you will still be happy!
What are some of your best ideas for nurturing relationships between mothers and daughters? And don’t forget to get your FREE copy of Made to Last…45 Ways To Nuture the Mother – Daughter Relationship! After reading it, “Why Not?” choose one of the ideas and go enjoy yourselves! Don’t forget to share what you did in the comments here, or on our Facebook page, Instagram, or Twitter — use the hashtag #MadeToLast45.