This is Part 2 of a series discussing the role of memories. Be sure to read Part 1, which discusses the different ways our memories shape us.
I’ve heard it said you can’t have both a great experience and a good memory. After a bit of thought, I began to understand what this statement meant: pleasant experiences are enjoyable in the present, but do not often lead to amazing memories; trying experiences will frequently lead to strong memories.
Confused? Consider this scenario.
If you are married, what is the first thing that comes to mind when you think of your wedding and honeymoon? Had my wedding gone perfectly smoothly, perhaps my first thought would be of a flawlessly orchestrated day followed by total relaxation — a brief time when everything was right in my world.
However, those are not my first thoughts! I remember forgetting to get the marriage license (would this even be a legal marriage??), arriving so late at the reception that all the food and most of the people were gone, an accident on the highway that brought traffic to a standstill for over an hour. Sounds pretty disastrous, doesn’t it? But I also think of sweet people holding the courthouse open until 6 PM on a holiday weekend, my future brother-in-law pretending to be my fiancé, and an interstate full of people milling around our car and celebrating with us (the wedding attire gave us away 😉 ).
Did we get that perfectly relaxing tropical honeymoon? Not exactly. My thoughts go straight to wrestling stingrays, moped mishaps, and hiking across empty fields in a cathedral length wedding gown!
“Planned” vs. Spontaneous Opportunities
Photo albums/scrap books.
Let the music take you back.
Don’t forget to read Part 1 in this series, which discusses the different ways our memories shape us.
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